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Single, Saved, and Celibate Series: Masturbation...Everyone's Answer

Single, Saved, and Celibate Series: Masturbation...Everyone's Answer

Maranda Evans
Single Saved & Celibate

Disclaimer: If you are under age, one of those people who can’t read or talk about sex as if it’s not a part of human life, or a “Super Christian” whose mouth drops open when someone says sex of any type and all things related: don’t read past this line and if you do well…read at your own risk.

Disclaimer 2: I am not promoting celibacy, sexual misbehavior, or trying to convert people in any way. I’m just sharing on what I know based on my experience because…duh that’s what I do.

So here we are…the topic people avoid but actually do.

Masturbation - stimulation of the genitals with the hand for sexual pleasure.

One of the MOST common answers or question I get is, “So do you masturbate?” or “You should masturbate.” Literally, this is what I get from people when I tell them I’m celibate.

So, do I masturbate? Yes!

Single, Saved, and Celibate Series: Yes...Oral Sex is Sex Too

Single, Saved, and Celibate Series: Yes...Oral Sex is Sex Too

Maranda Evans
Single Saved & Celibate

Disclaimer: If you are under age, one of those people who can’t read or talk about sex as if it’s not a part of human life, or a “Super Christian” whose mouth drops open when someone says sex of any type and all things related: don’t read past this line and if you do well…read at your own risk.

My dear readers, celibate siblings, and those in between…

It’s been almost a month since I’ve posted in the enlightening Single, Saved, and Celibate Series. Between conviction and commitment, this blog post has taken a little longer than usual. Fret not! I am here now and I am ready to dive into to this very complicated, opinionated topic.

When I first began my road to celibacy, I tried to find loopholes. It’s like I wanted everything except vaginal sex. I wanted oral sex or “head” as we sometimes call it. I wanted to kiss, cuddle, foreplay, all-a-dat. So, I did. Oral sex wasn’t frequent for me, but that devil was surely present.

Okay right here is when people hit me with the, “Aww you’re not really celibate! You might as well just have sex” line.

Single, Saved, and Celibate Series: Engagment Is Not Marriage

Single, Saved, and Celibate Series: Engagment Is Not Marriage

Maranda Evans
Single Saved & Celibate

FIRST, HAPPY THREE-YEAR CELIBACY ANNIVERSARY TO ME!

It’s been a looonnngggg time coming. Cheers to the unknown number of years to come.

I’ve often received the question, of course from inquiring men studying the vow that I’ve taken, “What if you get engaged? Will you have sex with your fiancé since you know you guys are going to be married?”

No!

My answer is always no. There are no “work-arounds” to celibacy. The celibate vow is until marriage. Marriage has been entered after the Officiant says, “I now pronounce you husband and wife.” Then and only then will my celibate journey end. Just because you are engaged to someone doesn’t give a 100% guarantee you’ll get married.